When you’re in the best-self energy of She Sees What Could Be Better, you’ve learned where this energy belongs. And where it doesn’t.
Being able to see what needs correction becomes one of the most valuable things you can offer the world. You’ve become more discerning about where that observation gets shared.
As a parent, we often see situations that need to change in our children’s lives. Years ago, one of my sons was dating someone who was absolutely not the person he believed she was. We’ll call her Susie. Not her real name. He loved her and would do anything for her. I saw the signs all along, but it wasn’t my place to say anything to him. I prayed that my instincts and observations about her were wrong. Sadly, they weren’t.
He came to me because he wanted to propose. I shoved my feelings aside and supported him. With love.
Six months later, she cheated on him. She didn’t admit it right away. She put him through a meat grinder. He knew something was wrong and kept contorting himself, trying to do everything he could to make her happy.
He talked to me about it. I gently said that her actions were of a woman who had cheated. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever said to my son. And I told him I prayed that I was wrong, that something else was going on.
Some weeks later, she finally told him the truth. And she blamed him, because somehow he “wasn’t there for her.” Don’t even get me started. It still makes my blood boil, even after fifteen years.
When he told me about it, he said, “Mom, you were right.” It took him many, many months to move past this. The one thing I said to him all through his healing was this: “The girl you were so in love with didn’t exist. Because the girl you believed Susie to be would never have done to you what Susie did.”
Yes, I had all sorts of criticism I could have shared. That wouldn’t have served my son and helped him move forward.
When you have access to the She Sees What Could Be Better energy, you become the person who walks into a broken system and knows exactly what needs to change. Who sees the pattern underneath the symptom. That’s diagnosis in service of change. It only looks like criticism from a distance.
The concern for people’s wellbeing that drives this energy is real and it’s deep. You see the gap between what is and what could be, and that gap matters to you in a way that goes beyond personal preference.
When that caring is the source, the correction becomes an energy that’s truly felt. By the person or system receiving it, and by everyone who gets to experience what happens after the fix.
And my son found his happily ever after. He’s married to a wonderful woman who loves and truly appreciates him as much as he loves and cherishes her. Yay!
Find your happy. Love what you do. Make a difference. Come back to me safely. See ya!
