The best-self version of She Wants Connection, On Her Terms energy is the Harmony Creator. In the energy of the Harmony Creator, you’ve learned what to do with conflict.
When you’re in the best-self version of She Wants Connection, On Her Terms energy, you can walk into a room full of tension. And the tension shifts. Because you’re present. Because you’re candid. Because you’re committed to finding what’s underneath the tension.
When you’re in a committed relationship with someone for a long time, there are some really challenging stretches. One approach is to just ignore how you’re feeling. You push it away and hope the challenges fade into the rear-view mirror and things get better on their own. Let’s be real. Tension is icky. And ucky. It doesn’t feel good. So you ignore it. Except that doesn’t do your relationship any good at all. There’s got to be a better way.
My challenge was always admitting the truth of my feelings, unless I was saying I love you. I might have been unhappy with something my husband was doing, but for a long time, I said nothing. And the tension grew. And grew. And GREW. He knew I was upset, even though I said I was fine. When I finally got brave enough to tell him how I felt about what was going on, his response was, “Woman, I can’t read your mind. If you don’t tell me what you want and how you feel, I’m never gonna know.” That was a game changer that saved our marriage.
Most people avoid conflict, or get swallowed by it. When the She Wants Connection, On Her Terms energy is running in its best version in you, you’re wired for a third way. Moving through it. Toward something better on the other side.
You’ve made peace with vulnerability. Not because it stopped being scary. Because you learned the good stuff lives just past the edge of scary.
When you’re in this energy, you create harmony for yourself. And you show everyone around you what’s possible. Conflict doesn’t have to be the end. It can be the start.
Find your happy. Love what you do. Make a difference. Come back to me safely. See ya!
