The aha moment can’t be forced. It can only be allowed. That’s the whole challenge of, and what has to be practiced with this energy. Sometimes it doesn’t arrive through stepping away. Sometimes it arrives through simply living your way into it.
Growing up, there were so many times I couldn’t figure out why my parents did the things they did. Decisions they made. I think that’s a pretty common way to feel while growing up. Like, what? Do my parents even have a clue what they’re doing? I spent no small number of hours trying to figure it out. Asking myself why. And then I got busy having my own kids. Making my own decisions about how to raise them. And I was no longer trying to understand why my parents did what they did. A whole lot of it just made sense.
Same thing happened when I was a student. So many times, I couldn’t understand why a teacher did something. It didn’t make sense. Years later, when I started teaching, aha, the clarity came in. I could see and understand why they’d done what they did.
In everyday life, we often get clarity about our past when we’re doing things for ourselves. Not by analyzing it harder. Just by living far enough into our own version of it.
So we want to develop a relationship with the in-between. The gap between confusion and clarity feels like a void. But it isn’t empty. It’s active. Your mind is sorting. Finding the thread.
With this energy, we have to be careful with insights when they first arrive. What you get is a way of seeing. Not a directive. Use it as perspective. Not as a plan you have to follow.
Stepping away also helps. Do something physical. Something creative. Something simple. The clarity often arrives faster once you stop grinding on it.
Find your happy. Love what you do. Make a difference. Come back to me safely. See ya!
