Candor and oversharing are two different things. The She Wants Connection, On Her Terms energy is discerning. It senses who’s safe. It feels into timing before moving toward closeness. That’s wisdom. Not distance.
I don’t have steady access to this energy, but my husband does. So I’ve gotten a front-row seat to what it takes to work with the She Wants Connection, On Her Terms energy.
Before I studied energy the way I do now, I thought hubs just had a temper. When he got mad, he would blow up. It was NOT fun to be around him. We used to joke and blame it on the Italian half of him. As I built my life with him, I learned to help him pause, to let his emotions settle before he responded to something. When I learned about how his energy really works, I learned that his emotions are felt and processed in waves. With this energy consistently running in him, he needed to pause. He needed to wait before responding.
When he moved into management, he ran into a different challenge with this energy. He wanted connection with his people, but he wanted it on his terms. He’s a very direct person, not given to idle chit chat, not interested in spending time just getting to know someone for its own sake. His way was to connect with someone when he needed them to do something. And most of them would get pissed. Why do I only see you when you need something from me? That approach made sense to him, but it didn’t land well with the people he managed.
I guided him to think it through from their perspective. They wanted a different relationship with their manager. They wanted to see him more than just when he needed something from them. Once he calmed down about it, he realized he needed a different approach. He started regularly visiting each person. Just a quick check-in. How’s it going? It changed everything. He realized that other people needed a different type of connection than he did.
When the She Wants Connection, On Her Terms energy is running in you, this is the everyday practice. Pausing before reacting. Learning that the timing and the conditions that feel right to you might not be what someone else needs.
You’ll feel tension when your terms don’t match what someone else needs. That tension is information. My husband felt it. His people weren’t happy with how he was treating them. At first, that annoyed him. But he turned it around and built relationships that have lasted for years.
So with this energy, pause before you react. Is this telling you to wait? Or telling you to speak? Timing is everything here.
Find your happy. Love what you do. Make a difference. Come back to me safely. See ya!
